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Imagine a marriage in which two people have learned how to love each other in such a way that leads to the wholeness of both people. Most of us sell marriage short and settle into patterns of complacency or disappointment. But what do you do when the Hollywood version of marriage fails to fulfill you? We need a grown up, real-world understanding of how to elevate marriage. Learn about the two guiding principles and three golden rules for successful and sustainable marriage relationships.
An author, researcher and national motivational speaker, M. Cecile Forté, Ph.D., explores issues of marriage, relationships, women and aging in our youth driven society. She uses her expertise in this arena to produce her popular one woman show, “Who you calling old?!” on Blog Talk Radio. What would life be like if women and men were free to be who they were born to be. Like most Baby Boomers, Cecile’s not “…going gently into that good night!”
Cecile was born in San Diego, California. Her family returned to New York where she received her education in both public and private schools. For 35 years she enjoyed a successful career as a teacher, administrator and consultant for public schools, colleges and universities. She’s earned a national reputation as an author and a specialist in Developmental Education as well as an expertise in the accreditation of colleges and universities in the continental U.S. and Puerto Rico.
She began her career as an English teacher in Freeport, New York. (She married her boss!) She realized the needs of her students in the area of literacy and decided to pursue a Masters Degree in Reading Instruction. She entered the Doctoral program in Reading and Learning Disabilities at Hofstra University.
Miriam Goodman is a journalist, author, award-winning radio and television producer, and public relations consultant. She has interviewed more than a thousand people, from celebrities to diplomats, from Margaret Mead to Marilyn Chambers. She created, produced and hosted the first nationally syndicated feminist radio program, which ran for seven years from New York to San Francisco on the RKO radio network and dozens of other stations and earned several radio awards. She has been a frequent contributor to National Public Radio, the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation and the Australian Broadcasting Corporation. Miriam was a television producer for Newsweek Broadcasting, a documentary producer for the San Francisco NBC TV-affiliate and received two EMMY nominations her television documentaries.
In preparation for an inspiring interview last night with Anna Banks on her radio show “Living Fully After 40,” I reflected on the highlights of middle age. I discovered, while mentally unearthing the positive side of aging, that there are many benefits to this inevitable change of life. Those revelations did not take me by surprise. Personally, I think this is the best time of life. As far as I’m concerned, my life has just begun.
At 52 I’m living my dream life. I’m not talking about a material dream life; all I ever wanted was stability, serenity, and love. I now have all those things. The foundation of my life could not be any stronger. Though I strive for personal achievements, I’m not looking to those things for happiness. They will be icing on the cake. We should never stop striving to reach new goals. That is how we stay young in our mind. Our mind is our fountain of youth.
As we age, we leave a trail of successes, failures, and hard earned lessons behind us. Those experiences are the bricks and mortar of our life. They have built us and delivered to this this exceptional station of our adulthood. We have had the benefit of time to evaluate our past, and now have the wisdom and experience to reevaluate the present. With the advantage of hindsight we have hopefully learned to trust our own judgement and listen to our intuition.
At this point in life, we know ourselves. The impact we used to feel from other’s judgement has dwindled down. Others opinions are taken with a grain of salt. We are more outspoken with our thoughts and feelings. And we tend to live our life with m
ore honesty. Our happiness and successes are defined by our own terms–we can walk to the beat of whatever drum
Many of us have established a spiritual foundation, whether through religion or of our own design. That foundation helps to carry us through difficult times. We are more willing to accept the things we cannot change, difficult as that may be at times, but easier when trusting in a power greater than ourselves.
At this time of life, many of us are, or are soon to become empty nesters. For those of us who have spent the last 18+ years raising children, this means redefining ourselves as something other than parents. Many of us are now retiring after having been immersed in our careers and defined by them for the last four decades. Though we enter scary, unchartered waters, it is also a rebirth for us; a time to pursue our personal interests and whatever dreams we may have. It is a time to discover hidden talents and to express ourselves in ways we never have before.
As our outer beauty changes in ways we wish it wouldn’t, our inner beauty blossoms and radiates until it overshadows our outer shell. We become more exquisite than we have ever been. Hopefully by now we have learned to love ourselves, to nurture our souls. We may not all be there yet, but we are much more aware of its importance.
My forties were wonderful but my fifties are exceptional. I am embarking on a new journey that is exciting for me. I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. As long as I have stability, serenity, and love in my life, I will always be happy.
To listen to the interview go to:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/livingfullyafter40/2010/12/13/codependency-secrets-of-a-fine-life-with-randi-fin
Dr. Karen Sherman, a licensed psychologist in New York, has been in private practice for over 20 years. Her focus is relationships/marriage and helping people achieve their greatest potential.
Karen is the author of “Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life” which enables people to let go of conditioned responses and empower them to make their own choices; the co-author of “Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last,” and a contributor to “101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life, Vol. 2,” writing a chapter about overcoming stress and “The Power of Persistence.”
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Additionally, she was a former relationships expert on the “Bo Griffin Morning Show,” and a marriage expert on ClubMom.com.
April Walker will join Living fully After 40 Radio host Anna Banks on Thursday evening, April 15 for an on-air interview about her book, More Than One Way To Skin A Dog. Walker is an author, innovator, educator, counselor, advocate, mother and native of the City of Brotherly Love, Philadelphia. As a behavior specialist, her mission in life is to address women’s issues by traveling the world and speaking to women of all ages about safe guarding one of their most precious commodities, the heart.
MORE THAN ONE WAY TO SKIN A DOG was an idea birthed a few years ago as a book concept that quickly grew into a powerful movement that would educate, inform, and be a central reference system for women – http://www.Skinadog.com.